[Bakary]

It can be pretty straightforwardly interpreted as a reference to the probability of being born into one gender or the other, which is roughly equivalent to a coin flip (not taking into account the higher chance of being born male, hermaphrodites, etc.)

[red75prime]

It is roughly equivalent to zero. I as I am now couldn't be born with another chromosome.

Anyway, it could be interpreted as "If my parents had a girl instead of me, what it would be like to be she".

[Bakary]

Isn't that what I wrote? I may not have expressed it clearly.

[red75prime]

"Your parents could have had a different child", while true doesn't feel personal enough, doesn't it?

I don't like when correctness is sacrificed for emotional engagement.

[Bakary]

I have trouble grasping why this distinction matters.

My understanding was that when people make "If I were X" statements, they are referring to having a conscious experience different than what they are currently experiencing. They would still be themselves by virtue of being the conscious observer in that context.