[CodeWriter23]

From my experience, when you're at the edge, the only thing to do is release the anger. Chopping wood, sledge hammer to rocks, in general doing he-man break shit. Preferably in private.

Once that's worked out, I make sure to give the anger back to the person who's sourcing it. If I need to check myself by asking the person questions, I try to do it. But other than that, I really try my best to reflect that negative energy back at its source. And while I prefer being overt, I will be covert when the situation indicates that is necessary.

Or as another guy expressed to me, you need something like the pressure relief valve on a pressure cooker to blow off the steam a little at a time, so you don't explode.

[CodeWriter23]

One more thing. A lot of people talk about "letting go". A wise man once told me he didn't know much about letting go, but he was real good at leaving things alone.

[groby_b]

Trust me, if you leave alone instead of letting it go - you'll revisit. Over. And over. And over.

And it's going to be a little bit worse every single time. Find closure.

[CodeWriter23]

That hasn't been my experience. I think the key is, letting go isn't a conscious act.