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by restuos 3485 days ago
Honestly, I don't think it really matters if your kids are OK with it or not. They are still kids and you are responsible for them.

If they are 18 and paying for their own service, then fine, that's another story.

But until then, I don't think it even matters. Seriously, I feel people without children just don't understand how parent's feel.

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I think we as parents sometimes should take a step back from our feelings and I think this is a prime example. Just because you feel a certain way (and pay for their phone) doesn't make it alright to push such an invading service onto your children. You feeling uneasy when your teenage child is out and about is your problem, not theirs, so you deal with it.
I found it interesting to swap some of the words around to draw a corollary against governments spying on their own citizens:

Honestly, I don't think it really matters if your citizens are OK with it or not. They are still citizens and you are responsible for them.

If they are politicians and have a say in the service, then fine, that's another story.

But until then, I don't think it even matters. Seriously, I feel people just don't understand how the government feels.

I was okay with this analogy until the politicians vs. citizens part. Maybe you should reconsider how bonkers your children : 18-yr old independent children :: citizens : politicians sounds
It's a pretty good analogy for the United Kingdom, at least, with the recently passed Snoopers Charter which gives unlimited access to a large number of government agency to the browsing information for all citizens, with the exception of politicians.
Why do you even put money in the equation? Raising kids is not about paying for stuff. Nor is paying for stuff what defines your relationship with them. Whether you're paying for stuff or not has little to do with how you're trying to raise them as responsible, trustworthy individuals.

If you don't put children in situations to experiment and earn your trust, they will never learn.

And yes parents worry, that's normal. If you lose sleep over your kid being out having fun with friends, it's perfectly ok. It's feature of raising kids, not a bug.