[mattm]

This is pretty typical with women from my experience. What many women fail to realise is that few things are more frustrating to a guy than being presented with a problem and not being given the opportunity to solve it. If a women does this too many times to a guy, eventually the guy will avoid talking to her because she is making him feel useless.

[ajuc]

If guy understand that women needs this he can manage to listen and not give advices, and to not become frustrated with all these "unsolvable" problems.

This is a matter of points of view - for men (esp. programmers) problem solving POV is the default, but they can switch to just listening from time to time, if the women doesn't charge them responsible for these problems.

It works the other way too - if some "on the spot advice" slips from me when I listen to my wife she shouldn't be angry - I didn't meant to dismiss her, sometimes I just can't help it.

A little understanding and everything is much simpler.