| Yes, of course, obviously. I would not associate myself with, say, someone who in their off time writes long diatribes about how my ethnic group is lazy, incompetent, undeserving of legal rights and fit only to be exterminated or enslaved. I'd be a fool not to shun this person and encourage others to do the same, however nice and pleasant they may be in person. For one, social shaming can, occasionally, be an effective way to change behaviour: it's a short hand for "your opinion is wrong, because all these respectable people say so". For another, I don't have the time and energy or personal obligation to graciously engage with every single person who may be a complete asshole. What you describe is not a new problem. To quote Karl Popper, >Unlimited tolerance must lead to the disappearance of tolerance. If we extend unlimited tolerance even to those who are intolerant, if we are not prepared to defend a tolerant society against the onslaught of the intolerant, then the tolerant will be destroyed, and tolerance with them https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Paradox_of_tolerance |
Social shaming should be used carefully, sparingly and among close knit communities.
Social shaming that works: "You are welcome, but the things you are saying make me and the people around me feel bad."
Social shaming that doesn't work: "You are a bad person and are not welcome here."