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Both do same error, that they start with premise of curing addicted people. The same error that nearly all psychologist or psychiatrists share. They declare people who are not normal as insane, and want to change them. A better way, imho, is to make people conscious that they are different, and thats important for them to find a place in life, where their difference is a bonus. One of my favorite parable, is the imagination: You are very talented. You can lay eggs. Society defines being healthy as not picking on other chicken or own feathers. But its not you who is insane, the cages are a system of insanity. The extreme cases of junkies on the street, and alcoholics in their flat come into mind, when thinking about addiction. Those are extreme cases of people who have no place in real life also. The drugs, are their way to find a place in life to be happy. Even if only for a short time. Teach them ways to become autonomic, to find their own path through life, and addiction will calm down by itself. |
I recall with fondness and sadness, both of them at their best... kind, generous, witty, intelligent; highly capable in their careers and loving and supportive to their families and close friends.
But each of them had ways in which they didn't quite fit in, and didn't always get the returns for the efforts they put in to try to achieve what they wanted in life, and as their frustrations grew, their self-destructive behaviours escalated, and the key support structures in life - most crucially their jobs and relationships - began to fall away.
But it was absolutely not the substance abuse issues that came first; in both cases that happened after the heavy knocks of life took their toll.
From observing these stories, I've become painfully aware that society just isn't very good at equipping people to understand why and how they're going wrong in life and how they can correct and achieve happiness and fulfilment. The support services that do exist, like therapy, AA, rehab etc, only become available when the problem is already entrenched and that much harder to turn around. I learned this when I recognised that I was starting to head down the wrong path in life and sought help before it got out of control, but the response was generally something like "you're pretty fine, don't waste our time".
I did end up finding an effective way of getting my life on track, and things are now going very well for me. I hope to live to see a time when it's much easier for far more people in the world to recognise their own failings and risk factors before they get out of control and find a better path before it's too late, and I'll be doing what I can to contribute to that cause.