[mirimir]

I beg to differ.

It's the tricks that you describe that are the "fnords". And once you see them explicitly as tricks, they lose their power over you.

[logfromblammo]

They lose their power, but they never stop being annoying.

They constantly remind you that other people see you as an object to be manipulated, rather than as a person with its own individual motivations, thoughts, and opinions. And then you can also look at other people around you, and see that the same tricks still have power over them.

[mirimir]

I find them amusing, like the tricks that children play to manipulate, rather than annoying :)