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I also do not hold much of an resume. Around 30% of developers I've questioned could not code a bit even when their resume said years of developer experience. I currently do only 10sec screening of resumes to find interesting things.

"[..] that it's downright abusive towards people who aren't ill-meaning. I hope that a balance is found sooner than later."

I'm totally against any (slightly) sexist words, and have always stopped people from using them - inside or outside of my teams/departments. That said:

Sometimes gender activists focus on the 'easy' things, like language, where it is easy to call someone out, and where it is an easy to understand world view with evil sexists on one side blocking female progress and good gender activists on the other side.

That way of living is easier than accept that there are many things women must do themselves (push for higher salaries, aspire for careers, fight for promotions, help other women with role models) and what activists could do: hire more women, become a tech (manager) role model, ...