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My medical friends spend quite a lot of unpaid time studying, or at conferences.

The accountants I know spend a lot of unpaid overtime meeting clients (networking being the key professional skill for Big 4 accountants).

Pretty much every profession has some kind of out-of-hours way of progressing their career which some people chose to engage in and some people don't.

The problem is that in every field you are competing against people who are willing to work 18+ hours a day, 7 days a week pushing their career forward.

You either need to match that or find some other way to compete that doesn't require as much of a time commitment. Or be happy that the market is hot enough that even without working too hard you can still get a pretty good job!