[gnaritas]

> Can you elaborate on why spending time and effort to find offensiveness in things makes sense to you?

Offensive things exist, it's simply a matter of whether you want to be aware of things that offend others or not. You can not put in the effort and walk around ignorant of behavior that offends people, or you can put in the effort because getting along with others generally requires not offending them.

For example, if you don't see sexism all around you, you aren't paying attention. If you don't see racism all around you, you aren't paying attention; our society is littered with both and women and minorities don't have the luxury of ignoring them.

[Mithaldu]

> For example, if you don't see sexism all around you, you aren't paying attention. If you don't see racism all around you, you aren't paying attention; our society is littered with both and women and minorities don't have the luxury of ignoring them.

Please do keep in mind that this is an international forum, and the people you talk to mind come from wildly dissimilar societies than you.

For example where i grew up there was relatively little sexism, instead women were often the stronger people who more commonly fed the family. Similarly there was very little racism, though primarily due to a lack of people from foreign countries.

[gnaritas]

> Please do keep in mind that this is an international forum, and the people you talk to mind come from wildly dissimilar societies than you.

It may be, but largely the people here are from the United States. The international audience is by far a minority. Beyond that sexism and racism run rampant throughout the entire world, that you might be from a place you don't think it's very evident doesn't negate that reality.

> instead women were often the stronger people who more commonly fed the family

That's still sexist, just against men. Sexism doesn't mean putting down women. Not treating the sexes equally is sexist.