[Rumford]

> Treating that person the same as anyone else is your group is what is appropriate.

Are you sure? It seems quite likely to me that this sensitive person would lodge exactly the same complaint for totally different behavior. "They didn't roll out the red carpet for me, what a bunch of hostile stunted brogrammers."

The person driving a wedge between females and tech is not the males in tech, it's the people spreading this paranoia. It's the people telling women that every man who codes needs to be reeducated before the field is safe for her to enter.

The reason stuff like this scares me is not that I'm accustomed to acting like a troll and don't want to stop. It's because I have spent decades treating everyone I meet with respect, and I now feel I could be punished for a crime I didn't commit at any moment. A good reputation takes a lifetime to build, and in this environment it can be undermined in moments. Now that we seem to be surrounded by people on high alert for signs of thoughtcrime, this asset -- my reputation -- which I've spent a lifetime building is on very thin ice just because my race and sex and politics and gender choices don't intersect with any politically correct victim groups. I don't like it, and I'm not going to just shrink back in fear and say nothing about it.

[sanswork]

>Are you sure? It seems quite likely to me that this sensitive person would lodge exactly the same complaint for totally different behavior. "They didn't roll out the red carpet for me, what a bunch of hostile stunted brogrammers."

It's the beliefs like that which I am talking about. You've built up this imaginary view of the world where every woman is just waiting to catch you out. And that all women demand a red carpet rolled out for them or else they will file a claim against you.

>The person driving a wedge between females and tech is not the males in tech, it's the people spreading this paranoia.

Right, like you who is spreading this fear that they have to constantly be on their toes because the women are out to catch them making a mistake so they can ruin your life.

>It's the people telling women that every man who codes needs to be reeducated before the field is safe for her to enter.

The thing is it isn't every man that needs to be reeducated. Most of us are perfectly fine interacting with any gender. But there is definitely a minority that is a problem and changes to cultures are a problem for them because they act inappropriately.

Your fear is imaginary if you act the way you claim. There is no boogyman out to get you.

[Rumford]

> You've built up this imaginary view of the world where every woman is just waiting to catch you out.

You've really got to stop doing that. I've already explained this isn't about women in particular. This is about a culture of guilty-until-proven-innocent in cases where one is being charged with having thoughts or intentions that offend the purveyors of grievance culture. A good example is this very conversation. Your tactic here, over and over again, has been to try and put me on the defensive, as if I have to prove I'm not a sexist.

Just stop it. This is a poisonous way to talk to people. You're only sowing division.