[azdle]

First, please go see a doctor. You know how shitty you feel right now? That isn't a normal state of being.

I've been there, I really have, I know it feels hopeless right now, but I promise it's not. If you're anything like me you might feel that getting anti-depressants is somehow wrong or cheating, or that you're admitting defeat , but you know what? They are just another tool that you can use to improve your life. Think if it like toilet paper, sure people lived for years without it, but we live in a modern world why not use the modern conveniences?

> all I do is fail.

That is called learning. Maybe you are trying to take on too big of a project or maybe you're just not giving yourself enough credit for what you are able to accomplish, it's hard to say without knowing you. Just don't compare your self to what you see on the internet. I know this is kind of a cliché at this point, but when you do that you're comparing someone else's highlight reel to your everyday, and it's just never going to compare.

[hoboon]

> That is called learning.

I get the tripe of what you mean, but perhaps I fail at failing, then. I don't really learn anything. Everything I do is wrong, I'm told.

I wish antidepressents would work. If I could cut out parts of my brain and be better, I would.

I just don't get it. Everyone else has done something right or at least better. People say things and everyone else gets it. I've been working for seven years, unemployed for one year. I had a job for a month and they fired me because I didn't have the skills they needed (not sucking, being experienced, nothing tech specific).

I just don't get it.

[mcv]

> I've been working for seven years, unemployed for one year. I had a job for a month and they fired me because I didn't have the skills they needed (not sucking, being experienced, nothing tech specific).

So you have held onto a job for 7 years. You can do that again! Being unemployed sucks, but it has happened to most people at some time in their life. Getting fired is not fun, but that too has happened to lots of people. You're not alone.

[DanBC]

> Everyone else has done something right or at least better.

Why do you think that? What is the evidence for it?

[imakesnowflakes]

Did OP said he is depressed? Did he say that he cannot do anything? He said he keeps failing, and is feeling bad because of that, which is 100% normal. Can we stop diagnosing every case like this as a case of depression? Just because you had depression, doesn't mean every case of 'having a bad time', is a case of depression, and you have to hasten every one having a bad time to take anti-depressants. I am seeing this trend growing in HN.

I think measures like that should be only considers IF you can't figure out WHY you are depressed. If you know why you are depressed, taking anti-depressants will only cure/suppress the symptoms, and without coming to terms with the actual fact that is making you depressed, you will be dependent on drugs for a long time.

[kls]

He is "I feel like eating a bullet would make the world a better place." even joking about life ending events can show visualization and ideation and the fact that he/she feel like the world would be a better place clearly shows long term self devaluation. A person that has overcome depression can clearly spot the signs in another person, it's very strange you don't see them in yourself when you are in it, but once you overcome it you instantly see the tell tail signs in others. The OP clearly exhibits signs of depression, whether it situational or long term is unknown but they clearly need professional help. I understand that depression is way over-diagnosed much like ADD but this is not a case of the blues the OP has every tell tail sign of depression. I don't mean this to come off rude but if you have never suffered from it, then there is no way for you to comprehend the hell of depression, what seems so trivial to the normal person can seem insurmountable to the depressed a task as simple as paying the bills can seem insurmountable you literally cant figure out where to start or how to get yourself to start.

OP, if you do not already take it start a course of vitamin D, you will be surprised at how fast it clears your head and gives you motivation to move ahead again. Personally I believe you need to seek help, if you have tried SSRI's and they have not worked (I personally think they are ineffective and cause more harm than good) you may want to see if your doctor will try a course of Gabapentin it has had very good results in stemming both situational and long term depression. If you do go on meds look at as being akin to antibiotics a medicine to get you thru a sickness develop a plan with you doctor to phase out of medicine but use it to break the cycle once depression has a hold on you as you know it can be very hard to break. Getting momentum is the most crucial part and medicine can help you gain that momentum.

My contact info is in my profile if you want to talk one on one. I have been where you are, it has been a long time ago but I still know how it felt. You are not alone and there are people that will help.

Please do me a favor tomorrow first thing in the morning please go and get a bottle of vitamin D at least 2000 IU preferably 4000 and take it in the morning. Do not take it at night because it can interfere with melatonin production. Give it about 3 days and see if you start to feel better.

[imakesnowflakes]

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Depression_%28mood%29

I think we can consider the OP's case as falling under

> Depressed mood may not require any professional treatment, and may be a normal reaction to certain life events...

[DanBC]

But OP has expressed suicidal ideation and that is always something that requires help.

It doesn't matter that it's situational, although that should alter the "treatment" options.

[imakesnowflakes]

> But OP has expressed suicidal ideation and that is always something that requires help...

He is looking for help from people here. And you are sending him away to a doctor? He ask here, because he think he can find people here who can identify with him, who have faced similar situation and he wants to hear how they came on top of such situations. He is looking for motivation and encouragement from like minded people. But people just shrug off and say "Nah man, you are just depressed, just go see a doctor". I understand that some people are genuinely concerned. But I think they are missing the point. I think OP should be getting more responses like this https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=9736526..

[DanBC]

I sort of agree with you. OP could be getting useful advice here.

But the suicidal stuff is always a significant sign and must never be ignored.