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by marincounty 4036 days ago
I'm having a hard time writing this comment because it's bringing up so many bad memories. My grandfather, and father died of liver cancer. Their deaths were horrid, but the agony my father went through was beyond painful. Alcohol use in our family was encouraged. I probally should stop writing because I'm feeling physically sick now, but I want to finish this. While my father was not a kind man, I can't blame his personality on just the alcohol. He was actually easier to be around when he was drinking.

Growing up and through my adulthood, there was one thought he shared with me in so many conversations. It was this, "I really think I would like the feeling of opium?" As a child, I didn't really know what he meant? I knew he was talking about drugs--and I found it weird because my father didn't break the law. As a child, I wished my father could relax. He was always so tense. I remember praying for him. At that point in his life he was a light drinker.

As I got older, I realized what he was getting at with all those Opium comments. I realized I couldn't relax either. I tried to fight the urge to settle my nerves with alcohol, but I eventually had a nervous breakdown(life, 20's, genes, not alcohol related), and the only thing that slightly settled symptomology was alcohol. I finally found the right psychiatrist, and he gave me some relief with medication, but it wasn't enough. For years alcohol is the only thing that helped me get through the day. Fifteen years go by and I'm finally prescribed a drug that settled my nerves, but I don't know what damage I did to my body?

When I read her post, I remember how my mom blamed All my father's problems on alcohol. She would yell, scream and through objects at him. It got so bad, I think he was drinking more because she was so angry?

My mother didn't drink. My mother was just an angry person. She had a good heart, but the anger always got the best of her. She was basically angry with herself, angry over her childhood, and looking for a scapegoat. My mother lightened up as she aged, but used my father's alcoholism as an excuse to vent her emotions.

When I read this article, I felt bad for the wife, but I remember how my mother blamed everything on the drinking. I'm not saying his wife is like my mother. I don't know why this professor drank himself to death. I'm just slightly taken back when I read stories like this. I wonder if a story like this would be published if the genders were reversed?

I am in no way questioning this lady in any way. I do have extreme empathy for most alcoholics though, especially the one's that are self-medicating. There are some drugs that alleviate the need to drink, but they are only prescribed by a small percentage of Doctors. In the U.S. these drugs are currently under fire by politicians. Doctors are becoming reluctant to prescribe like they used to. I'm not going to name the drugs because I don't want to expose my identity, but one of the drugs is Klonopin(A benzo with a long half life). My wish is politicians would leave medical doctors alone. Again, I'm not questioning this lady. I know she suffered. I am guilty of spilling out my own problems?

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"I'm finally prescribed a drug that settled my nerves"

What was it?

I've spilled out too much personal information on this site. I'm afraid I could be fired if my company found out I was on this drug. I think some of my coworkers are on this site. I can guarantee the drug is no cureall. Some people are having a hell of a time getting off it. I was prescribed the drug for a condition other than alcoholism. I'm still not convinced if it was the worst mistake of my life, or it really helped my condition? If you are really in agony, I will leave my email in my profile at between 9 p.m. and 10 p.m., seven days from now. Sometimes, I forget I'm on such a public forum. I'm probally being overly paranoid?
Do not put your email address in your profile if you want to remain anonymous from your employer! If you have already shared other stuff that would identify you, it would be best to drop this now. Otherwise, get an anonymous email address to use here. Use Tor browser, and get an account with https://vfemail.net/ or https://www.safe-mail.net/.
> I will leave my email in my profile at between 9 p.m. and 10 p.m., seven days from now.

I'm not sure how this actually helps keep your anonymity. I would suggest setting up a temporary email address (there are many services for this purpose - https://duckduckgo.com/?q=temporary+email)

As far as I know you cannot be fired for choosing to treat a condition. That would be discrimination. Chances are your coworkers would not care. Some of your coworkers probably do some illegal drugs, or maybe the same prescribed medication you do. I know I had coworkers who smoked weed, and would talk about it, and I do not live in a state where that is legal. Nobody cared SHRUGS