[mikecmpbll]

My immediate gut-feeling after reading it was the same (though perhaps less strong). Through the author's journey, the article seems to suggest there's either guilt or blame, and no possibility of an in-between feeling of "it was out of my control." Still, a very interesting read.

[JesperRavn]

From my reading, the author didn't connect these two issues. It's just that perspective, and time, lead her to realize that her husband's death wasn't her own fault, and also allowed her to feel anger at her husband for his actions.