[robocat]

Fortunately there are many people who have a generic like towards oddity.

There are also plenty of people that only care about a few things important to them, and don't care much about extra oddities.

If you care about the feelings of someone, and you like them, that goes a long way towards them liking you. If you are non-judgemental about the oddities of others, that helps a lot too.

[abruzzi]

I've never tried the questionnaires on dating sites, but it seems you'd get better results with paired questions. Ask person A what they're looking for in attribute X. Ask person B to describe themselves in attribute X. So someone that is emotionally submissive that likes a partner that is emotionally dominant gets matched with someone that is emotionally dominant that prefers a partner that is emotionally submissive.

Of course that assumes that the person even consciously knows what they want. I don't know how true that is.