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It leaves me great ponder after reading the comments. After all, is "being kind" the general rule? Should it be a general rule? Or is it just an attitude towards certain kinds of personality (or the belief by people who have these personalities)? Recently read about the 16 personality types of psychology http://www.16personalities.com/personality-types, I guess Boz is more of a "debater", like myself, who doesn't care much about the attitudes, instead we focus on the idea itself that is being conveyed, to fully understand it, and to dig out all implications and foundations. The article seems to encourage us to become more like the "diplomats", to understand people's feelings. Should I change? should we change? or should we just "be kind" to the sensitive people, and be ourself, ie. direct, honest but probably not kind, around other people? The doubt I have on being kind boils down to overhead, it leaves a huge hole to misinterpretations, and just as people say in the comments, sometimes people see your kindness as unimportance. For myself, I'd rather be offended then to be "protected by (mis)interpretations" of others on me. I hate to find out people specially crafting their speech in order to convince me. I am intelligent and mature enough to seperate the attitudes and the ideas of speech. Nevertheless, I do see the value of what's Boz suggesting, I guess being kind is maybe an overstatement, instead, being thoughtful is more conservative, and thus, a more general rule. |