[pekk]

It would be useful if people carefully considered their real motivations for their feedback, and whether it was really all correct and relevant. Feedback which hasn't passed a strong internal filter for whether it is basically constructive, objective and well-informed isn't worth voicing and really should be withheld. So I like that you say "be thoughtful."

[jasonwocky]

Yeah, I'm a big proponent of the thoughtfulness you describe. I don't like it when people shroud rudeness & cognitive miserliness as "just calling things like they see them." I prefer "See it, think about it, then call it."

I really value honesty, but not every emotion-laden thought that passes through our heads deserves airtime.