[Kronopath]

I want to start off with a bit of encouragement. You've admitted that you have a problem and you're taking steps to solve it. That's a great thing, because it's showing acknowledgement of the problem and a commitment to getting better. Too many people lack that, and so you should feel proud of yourself for that.

That said, a therapist can probably guide you better than the internet can. The trick is finding the right one. Most of the effectiveness of a therapist comes down to the "fit" between the two of you, so if you've gone to about three sessions or so and you're still not feeling it, it's encouraged and expected to try another one. Your current therapist may even refer you to another.

Above all, just keep fighting the good fight, and never be afraid to reach out for the things you need.

[lotsofthrows]

> Most of the effectiveness of a therapist comes down to the "fit" between the two of you, so if you've gone to about three sessions or so and you're still not feeling it, it's encouraged and expected to try another one. Your current therapist may even refer you to another.

thank you. this is very helpful. you're the second person to mention this, and it's the sort of advice about treatment I may not have come by otherwise.

as it turns out, this is something I've been curious about (how / when to change, the etiquette of switching therapists, etc).

[Kronopath]

I don't have a lot of personal experience with that kind of situation of needing to "shop around", so I'm not sure I'm the best source of information for things like that. But if you do a bit of digging, you can find some links and information online:

http://drpatrickkeelan.com/psychology/the-importance-of-clie...

https://drkathleenyoung.wordpress.com/2009/04/30/the-therapy...

Ultimately it does just come down to trusting your gut, and whether you feel comfortable with them and their approach. If you do choose to switch, your therapist should understand that things like this can and do happen, and shouldn't have a much of a problem with it. (If your therapist does have a problem with it, that's a huge red flag right there and you're better off ditching them.) Some of the better therapists may even make it clear near the beginning of your therapy that they can connect you with other resources or refer you to other places if that's necessary. But even if they don't you do have recourse to do that. Just keep trying, even if it means you have to go through a whole bunch of them to find one that's right for you.