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by yetanotheracc 4067 days ago
I burned bridges several times. It usually resulted in doubling my income.

CASE #1

Context: Full-time job as a web developer in Eastern Europe

My boss was explaining something to me. When he left the room to answer a phone call, I quickly left the office and never communicated with the company again.

Outcome: I avoided being dragged down by work requests from that company, which would have kept me near the previous salary range for longer. I moved on to work as a freelancer for Western clients.

CASE #2

Context: Four and five-figure remote freelance jobs

On five occasions, ceased all communications with freelance clients: deleted the project from my computer, blacklisted their email addresses. In some cases I communicated the fact to the client.

Outcome: Nothing much. Moved on to greener pastures.

CASE #3

Context: Lead developer at a startup without traction running out of funding

Took a week off, at the end of which I made a broad email blacklist, encompassing the entire company (including many keywords, should they attempt to contact me from a different address), changed my phone number.

Outcome: Losing contact with a very well-connected person. Not having to participate in the death throes of a company I did not have any stake in.

CASE #4 (unsuccessful)

Context: Lead developer at a startup

Left suddenly for several months, after which the company took me back and doubled my pay. The exact same scenario happened again one year later.

Outcome: Getting caught in a golden cage. I became something of a prima donna, but with with the company expanding the development team, this will not last. I will probably leave on good terms for a change.

5 comments

It seems to me like you burned bridges for the sake of it or to get more income, is that true?
This way to leave is expensive to the employer in terms of the time lost before they realize you will not communicate again and a replacement must be found. Why did you choose to not communicate with them that you quit beforehand? I am genuinely curious because I have witnessed people quitting by suddenly ceasing all communication before and I completely fail to understand it. Note that this is not mutually exclusive with blacklisting their email address and changing your phone number.
I guess it may be when you realize the absurdity of the situation you are on (they are incompetent, irrationally demanding, etc) and that you really would not lose much just cutting those people, also to avoid unnecessary awkwardness when quitting (this may be inteprerted as you are in an indirect way saying that they suck).
I guess it may be when you realize the absurdity of the situation you are on (they are incompetent, irrationally demanding, etc) and that you really would not lose much just cutting those people, also to avoid unnecessary awkwardness when quitting

Spot on.

Even being more 'political' oriented, I can certainly understand your behaviour/strategy on life and learn from your comment.

But, be conscient that your 'strategy' doesn't work so clearly in other backgrounds: remove the ever expanding market existent in IT and add a family. Now you might have a loosing strategy on the long term. During a 'bear market' is an huge advantage to be trusted.

This is really dysfunctional.

You obviously had some serious problems with the people you abandoned suddenly with no warning. Why not learn to communicate?

You can't really communicate with children. I agree with yetanotheracc. Getting up and leaving is the most sane approach with the least stress,
yetanotheracc's comment does not say whether his or her employers behaved like children. If they did you'd expect it to be mentioned.
- "dragged down by work requests"

- "ceased all communications with freelance clients"

- "Not having to participate in the death throes of a company I did not have any stake in"

Sounds like demanding children to me. Maybe I should have used the professional terms: bad managers and bad clients.

What was your motivation for handling things this way?