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There's a sort of catch-22 going on. We all have some variation of this story: When I was younger I wanted to live in SF and I couldn't afford to buy anything anyways; now that I'm older (42), rural life is more appealing and the finances work... but after 13 years of living in the city, I have a broad and firmly established friend group that I am loathe to give up, even taking a dozen of them with me. So we picked an arbitrary cutoff of 2 hours from SF.

Two hours covers a lot of counties, but none with ordinances that permit rural compound housing. I don't know how far you'd have to go. I don't think there are any in CA.