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by grandDesigns 4090 days ago
"If you're alone with a girl, it's a date."

No, it is not. When you get older you will learn that women are people, just like you, and sometimes people just want to talk. Don't worry. Just talk to her like she was your sister or mother. After a while, it will become natural.
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morgante 4090 days ago
Assume a generous interpretation of lordnacho's comment.

In the real world, if you ask a girl you've been flirting with to get coffee together it's a date—even if you don't actually use the word "date."

Similarly, if an employer asks you to come meet a few people at the office, it's an interview—even if they didn't use the word "interview."

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esrauch 4090 days ago
The point is that meeting a few people can be an "interview", which is really different than a hardcore structured technical interview.

In this analogy, its like showing up to that coffee and immediately start trying to make out with the person. Yeah, we both knew that might be where this is going, but that's not how the game was set up at this point.

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lordnacho 4089 days ago
>No, it is not. When you get older you will learn that women are people, just like you, and sometimes people just want to talk. Don't worry. Just talk to her like she was your sister or mother. After a while, it will become natural.

Of course I assume it isn't your sister or mother, or someone you can't date for whatever reason (you're married, she's married, seeing someone, homosexual, and so forth).

The fact is if you're in such a situation, there's always this question hanging over it. You (the two of you) can turn it to friendship if that's what you're after, but there's always this possibility, and you might as well acknowledge it and not question whether the situation allows it to become something else.

I don't think I've ever been misunderstood in such situations.

Anyway, the point is it's quite clear when you're being courted for a job. You might expect it to be slightly different when the proposer is not the usual one (if a girl asks you out, is it different? Yes.) Maybe slightly fewer of the trivial coding type questions.

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