[tunesmith]

I think what you're saying is compatible to what I meant to say. In my last sentence I was thinking later that "censoring" would have been a better word choice than "avoiding". If I'm in a social environment with a friend that I know has had a certain trauma, then of course I wouldn't have a problem with avoiding certain topics. But I wouldn't agree with censoring those general topics from a lecture (assuming the topics would be presented professionally and not flippantly).