[throwaway22mar]

while I don't believe it's related to OP anymore (see my other reply to him) i wanted to highlight that your comment shows an amazing level of self-reflection.

("I'm a very vengeful guy"). Would you say you're a psychopath? [EDIT: this is an honest question out of curiosity, not an accusation.]

What about other people - do you think hey hold grudges for years against you, too? Wouldn't it suck if something bad that serious happened to you, a major setback, but it was because of some guy you have never thought about thought he was "givign back" something against some way he thought you wronged him years ago? Even though you did not in fact have this intention?

What I'm saying is that I know basically no one who just does things out of spite. So if you feel that you were personally wronged, don't you think you could be misinterpreting, and doling out punishment against people who haven't thought about you since (or have any reason to) but who's next interaction with you is a shit sandwich for no reason?

Just curious here.

[Red_Tarsius]

I'm NOT a psychopath, I think that honest writing makes for more informative posts, while showing empathy and common ground for the OP.

You highlight one of the most famous cautionary tales: the Chain of Revenge. You're right and, as I suggested, OP should let it go. Although a grudge, no matter how small, is not something you just shake off from you. Rational thinking can only take you that far, the real deal is to forgive, which takes time and willpower.