We should value all lives equally. Yours, mine, that mother, her children, and the children in far away places who will die today for want of heart surgery.
This will probably sound harsh, and I regret that, but I think it's the way things actually are, as against how we might otherwise want them to be.
When you say "We should value all lives equally," what pops into my head is the question "Of value to whom?"
In fact, if I had to choose between saving the life of a stranger, and choosing to save the life of someone I loved, I'd save the latter. This is because the person I love is a greater value to me than is the stranger.
There's a yawning gap between the language you're throwing around -- "goofy" -- and the kernel of legitimate criticism that you have on your side. I might agree that the choice to donate money to help Detroit residents pay their water bills is questionable because it reflects a conscious decision to do less good with your resources than you might have done. But I don't think you've earned the right to call the serious philanthropic efforts of others -- which do real good in the world -- "goofing around."
When you say "We should value all lives equally," what pops into my head is the question "Of value to whom?"
In fact, if I had to choose between saving the life of a stranger, and choosing to save the life of someone I loved, I'd save the latter. This is because the person I love is a greater value to me than is the stranger.