| I think this is a good rubric, for things you can control. There can also be things that are way outside your control, that are almost guaranteed to cause serious/widespread feels. For example: 1. a co-worked is very attracted to you, and can't take a hint. Your continued romantic rejection will certainly inflict pain. 2. you exchange fluids with someone (totally unrelated to work) and then later discover that it is someone's recent ex and they are going to find out, and they're really not going to like it. 3. Your boss is in love with you and decreasingly able to hide it. ...... These are situation you can't solve, but you also can't do nothing. - talk to a someone about it at work. ideally someone with authority, who knows the people involved. just casually, so you aren't kicking off a big process, but so that they can see what is happening before that negative feelings that are being generated metastasise into something more serious. - gossip ... hold your nose and address it. if you don't it will slowly become accepted fact. - communicate rejection clearly |