[iron_ball]

The English proverb would be "who pays the piper picks the tune."

[mturmon]

There is also the debased version of the golden rule. The golden rule being, of course, "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you."

The debased version being, "Who has the gold, makes the rules." (http://quoteinvestigator.com/2015/01/11/has-gold/)

Sometimes in gloomier moments, I am reminded of the gap between the two.

[Arnt]

Very apt. Thanks.