[comex]

On a related note, here is an essay written by a high-functioning autistic person which I read once and found illuminating on the identity issue:

https://www.fysh.org/~zefram/allism/allism_intro.txt

[mst]

Can recommend. He and I have worked together on many open source projects, and drunk beer together.

He was one of the people I was thinking of as "part of identity".