[siscia]

I found it so wrong...

Sentiments are real, I don't think anybody should play with other person feeling...

Of course the user signed up, and they think that this is what they want, but I honestly believe that nobody want to risk to fail in love for a nobody...

[pizza234]

The concepts involved in the article are confusing attraction with love.

Independently of how arbitrary attraction and love are, there's certainly a difference between them, depth being the divider.

With this in mind, the "falling in love" the author is talking about, which may also apply to the crowds using such service, is the equivalent of a teenager "falling in love" with, say, Tom Cruise.

Although of course, services like this pose a "risk" of falling in such state, there's nothing really "wrong" (in the "damaging" sense of the term) with it.

[hobs]

I don't even think it is attraction, just a person (like most) who craves additional acknowledgement and attention because it is a powerful feeling.

I have seen people go out craving attention and not being satisfied until they have gotten a hit from someone.

To me it is the same impulse that has people meticulously manage a facebook profile so they can get kudos from practical strangers.

[siscia]

People are different, maybe provide a little bit of attention to somebody that have never been loved can go a looong way in my humble opinion.

It is just extremely broad as argument.

I personally feel a lot of attraction to people just because the click well with my thoughts, but I know from experience that this is extremely dangerous and difficult to manage.

[siscia]

Are you sure about that ? How ?

The author seems old enough to be able to distinguish love and attraction...

I believe that different people have different emotion, keep texting with somebody can be extremely powerful can go a loooong way...

[pherocity_]

> "and they think that this is what they want, but I honestly believe that nobody want to risk to fail in love for a nobody..."

Wow, that's a whole lot of bullshit right there. That kind of thinking is why we have religion and politics. Men thinking they know what is best for everyone else.

[siscia]

Sorry, as you can see that is just what I believe.

Of course I don't force anybody, it is just my opinion, I believe that I have the right to have an opinion...

Anyway, I would like to suggest you to use a language a little more cordial.

[pherocity_]

It's not about forcing, it's the arrogance that you inherently think somehow know better than the people that want to consume the service. People who think like that are the people who vote like that and suggest that I change my behavior because they don't think I'm capable of making the assessment on my own. Kinda like what you just did with my language.

You can have any opinion you want, but the moment you put it out there, someone else gets to have an opinion about your opinion. My opinion can be that your opinion is dangerous, and "bullshit".

We would do far better in society if we actually believed in our fellow man, rather than thinking we knew better than them.

[UrMomReadsHN]

>It's the arrogance that you inherently think somehow know better than the people that want to consume the service

Hrm, well, yes, to an extent. However, People do do research on the psychology of human happiness and a bunch of other human charistics and we can answer some questions on what will be "best" in the longrun with quite a bit of certainty.

We also know that oftentimes people are just downright wrong about what will make them happy.

Example- we know spending your money on experiences rather than objects will make you happier in the long run.

If you want to read more about the topic I recommend the book "Stumbling on Happiness."

Sometimes we DO know that your choice is wrong for your goals.

Thats just in general, not particularly about this service.

[pherocity_]

Well, we really don't know any of that though. We know that spending money on experiences create lasting happiness for a statistically significant portion of the population which is a larger number of people than those that derive more lasting joy from spending on purchases. And even that is self reported.