[tslug]

When people unknowingly do things that upset you, the considerate thing to do is to tell them first, not the whole Internet. Give them a chance to explain, apologize, amend. If they don't to your satisfaction, then by all means go wide.

[tesseractive]

When people "unknowingly" out themselves as bigots, no, you don't have to be "considerate" and take it to them. That's terrible advice.