Equal in value does not imply equal in thought, experience, or skill. I think that is the major flaw in your argument and why you are misconstruing breaking down barriers for women as "sexist".
I am all for breaking down barriers I just dont think it will result in better outcomes, because different men have different thoughts, experiences and skills, it is just the nature of being human. To suggest though that somehow it will result in the things mentioned in the article is sexist because it attributes those qualities to a gender.