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by rmcastil 4248 days ago
> what would you do when your gf/bf/wife/husband complains about it?

When my wife complains about it, I just listen. She's also a working professional who works a ton more than I do so it's usually a red flag if she brings it up. A lot of times it's not about coming up with a resolution but just trying to understand what she is frustrated with.

> So how do you handle this balance?

When I first started working remote about 10 years ago I didn't think it was an issue. It was supposed to be the dream setup.

But then I eventually had kids and started my own company and saw the lines between work/life blur. At first I told myself this was natural since it was one of the side affects of being remote but I quickly became dissatisfied with that answer. This was especially the case when I felt like I had to start choosing between time with my family and time for work.

I eventually came to realize that life stuff (i.e. family, relationships, etc.) aren't a time suck from work but a healthy constraint.

For me, success does not come from pouring every ounce of energy I have into work but from embracing the constraints of my life. I use these constraints to focus on the most important things I have to do for work so that I can get back to my family as soon as possible.

For more of a practical standpoint the following are the things I do to manage the balance (especially since my home is where I work).

- Have doors on the office.

- Family time, is strictly family time. No emails on the phone, github issues, harvest invoice, etc. I'm not perfect at this but I try to go with the distraction free iPhone methodology [https://medium.com/life-hacks/my-year-with-a-distraction-fre...]

- Have strict business hours.

- Don't blur the line between work and personal health. Which means eating appropriately and getting the appropriate amount of sleep.

2 comments

This is all great advice. The key (over time) is in working more efficiently and productively, not working more hours.
Your advices are constructive and practical. They're great. Thank you.