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I went from academia to a startup after being married. My wife was worried this would mean I work way too much. We came up with a specific plan. Three days a week I would be home at no later than 6. I could go in as early as I wanted. The other days I could stay as late as I wanted. Weekends were for us to spend time together. If there was a one off or some important thing, she wasn't worried since we had a clear agreement in place. Later the three days a week was made two days and this was also Ok.

Separately, just listen. If your SO wants to spend more time, make time. If you can't or won't then ask what is important to you and make a decision.

Another thing that helps is to plan specific things to do. Go on a hike, go to the beach, these kinds of memorable moments are more significant than going to a restaurant or hanging out on the couch.

This may not apply if you are in a relationship with dependency or trust issues. If you are go see a counselor and work that out first.