[tatalegma]

Are you fresh out of school? Are you more junior than this other engineer? I feel like you might be suffering what I have seen in a lot of engineers who are fresh out of school, where they want to question everything, argue about things, and constantly look for ways to prove a proven engineer wrong. it's like they are trying to make a name for themselves. I've seen this in several jr. levels to varying extents. Just make sure you aren't being like that.

If you are more Jr., make sure you are taking the other engineer's advice. Even if he/she is being abrasive, he/she may have valid points. It may also be the case that they are annoyed that you aren't paying them the respect they feel they deserve as the more Sr level engineer.

As davidholmesnyc said, you can't do anything about it, other than adjust your own approach. You will not get the other person to change. If it's a big enough problem, find another job. Complaining to a higher up will not help, sadly.

[anonobot]

Yes, this is my first job out of school. However I've been working here over a year and have done longer term internships before. I didn't have the same experience with this kind of friction.

He is more senior than me with respect to him working there a few more months and having a few more years experience -- at the same time I think I might have a different experience set. This makes me sound full of myself, but there have been a few occasions where I'll argue for something that I thought was common knowledge (like using an orm for crud objects or mocking external services for tests) and then when the vpe steps in he points out all the tradeoffs leans towards what I'm proposing. I think this only works because he trusts that the vpe has relevant experience.

I think it may be a respect / pride thing. I think I'm giving them mutual respect, but maybe I'm not and I'm oblivious.

Noted on not complaining, was hoping that wasn't the case.