[davidholmesnyc]

He may just have a bit of a god complex or is being very competitive and that may just be his personality. I have yet to figure out a perfect way of dealing with it because you can't change who people are.

Some advice I can give is to ride it out and do great work for the experience and switch jobs when you can because not all companies are the same and there are some that have really nice people.

If you can't switch jobs or don't want to switch jobs then something that worked for me is just hear what he has to say and then do what you was going to do anyway if and only if it's better than that persons suggestion.

Try to be open minded,listen to the things they say and not stress yourself over his personailty because he could have some valid points in his rants.

As for interviews .. Try to do a separate interview with candidates going forward if those things are going to stress you out.

[anonobot]

Just to clarify, the group interview was one at the end, we do individual interviews before.

So are you saying that you have ran into this sort of personality? Did you confront it at all?

[davidholmesnyc]

Yes I have in more than a few situations, but like I said people will be people and you can't change them. The only thing that will happen is maybe for 2 weeks they will change but they will slowly creep into being back to who they are. By complaining to your bosses about it - it ends up looking like you are the problem instead of them.You would like to think your manager will see it your way but they usually don't. All they will end up seeing is that anonobot is the one always complaining to them and that your co-worker isn't. It's weird but it's true.

[MalcolmDiggs]

> By complaining to your bosses about it - it ends up looking like you are the problem instead of them.

This.

Take that line to heart. No matter how abrasive he is, nobody likes a whiner...and you definitely don't want to be become known for cultivating office politics.

Focus on the things you can control. Namely: your work-product and how well you do your own job.

[anonobot]

Noted.

[anonobot]

Thanks for the advice. I intuitively thought that groups just worked these kinks out through discussion.