Erlang. The syntax really isn't that bad, once you get over the initial shock. In all honesty, grasping that the variables are immutable and how you need to change your thinking is much more difficult than the syntax itself.
I've been very happy writing these things in Scala using Spray. Honestly there are plenty of event-driven I/O frameworks in many languages, and almost as many green-threading systems. The Erlang supervision system and the ability to replace code on the fly, not so much.