[emcarey]

for your wife, check out http://www.mothercoders.org/ - great organization for software engineers that are mothers. I'm sure they will have resources for both of you and it's a wonderful community of developer parents!

My dad worked from home while my mother worked in the city when we were younger. One way they made that work was by hiring someone to do the house hold chores (cleaning & laundry) so that responsibility was covered and their focus outside of work was about taking care of us instead of the house. hope that tip helps!