[Semiapies]

I don't think the points are very different in breadth. You're saying, Do thing X with women if you're comfortable doing it with men. I'm saying the alternative is, Don't do thing X with men if you're uncomfortable doing it with women.

Normally, I'd say they were equivalent and lean towards the first option as less limiting, but if there are serious potential downsides, the second option seems to have merit.