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by GrinningFool 4288 days ago
I assume you refer to the quote: "the bitch forgot I work for AT&T."

Well, maybe. I wouldn't be saying kind things about anyone who disappeared with my kids.

I'm not saying that this wasn't an abusive, dead-beat husband/father. Only that the information we have isn't enough to make that assumption.

"On the AT&T part though, I agree fully. Individuals should not have access to that sort of information."

Me too - but we also don't know if he went through proper procedure to get it... it does seem very unlikely, though.
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CocaKoala 4288 days ago
"He the describes, with pride, the look on her face as he showed up at her new house."

Is that describing a man who's happy he's rescued his children, or happy he's re-established dominance over somebody who attempted to escape?

Is the child-rescuer or the dominator more likely to be an abuser?

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chc 4288 days ago
Why can't somebody be satisfied both with getting back his children and with sticking it to the person who took them in the first place? I think most people would gain some degree of satisfaction from seeing the person who kidnapped their children brought low.

(Admittedly, this is not the narrative I think is more likely, but it doesn't seem like all that remote a possibility either. Vengeful feelings are ugly, whether we consider them justified or not.)

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CocaKoala 4288 days ago
Sure, absolutely that's the sort of thing you would get satisfaction from.

But when you're relating the story to others, are you going to describe that satisfaction at seeing "the bitch" brought low? Or are you going to describe the relief from having your children back? People tend to relate portions of a story which they consider to be important; if this guy is describing to his friend the satisfied feeling of getting one up on her, then that sends some pretty heavy signals about why he broke the law and company policy to find her.

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chc 4288 days ago
Well, maybe. Which part of the story is important is largely a matter of context. If the topic of discussion were his children, yeah, changing the subject to how he got one over on his wife would be kind of disturbing. If the topic were his wife, expressing satisfaction at how he got one over on her when she was at her most "evil" seems pretty normal.
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