[beachstartup]

> Sure, some women prefer one thing over another but you don't need all the women to like you. You just need one

i understand where you're coming from but let's be real. in order to retain the relationship(s) you are in, you need to understand what makes a man attractive to a woman. it has nothing to do with race but more to do with assertiveness, boundaries, ability to plan, get shit done, etc.

and if you have none of that, you better start working on it. "be yourself" is the worst dating advice ever. and "one out of a million will end up maybe liking you" is even worse.

[hangonhn]

I don't think we disagree on this. You should always work to improve yourself and love is a great motivator for doing that.

My point with the number is that to go on a date, to be given that chance to know someone better, isn't that hard even if the probabilities are low.

My 95% is actually crazy pessimistic. It actually ended up being closer to 50% success rate for first date. I am short, Asian, and introverted so I think most other men aren't going to do worse based on those attributes alone. Or maybe like you said, race doesn't matter as much.

That said, I don't really agree with that list of attributes you posted. Maybe on some level, yes those attributes matter but personal chemistry between two people matters much more, at least from my own limited experience.

[beachstartup]

> Maybe on some level, yes those attributes matter but personal chemistry between two people matters much more

personal chemistry is required, but not sufficient.

these are things you learn the hard way.

[roguecoder]

The best dating advice I've heard is "become the person you want to marry." It's a way of thinking about what makes someone a good partner and addressing personal weaknesses at the same time.