[defen]

I think that was the writer struggling to reconcile the fact that personal sexual preferences are considered sacrosanct in modern liberal culture (as long as those preferences don't harm anyone), and yet using "race" (which doesn't exist, remember) as a component in any decision is considered immoral.

[roguecoder]

I don't think the problem is that using "race" as a component in any decision is considered immoral. The problem is that the net effect of all those independent "preferences", which we know are shaped by society, hurts actual people.

We can't just say "be attracted to different people", because people like what they like, but it is certainly valuable to know how our preferences are likely to be biased. The least we can do is acknowledge the aggregate hurt our individual preferences may contribute to.

[defen]

> The problem is that the net effect of all those independent "preferences", which we know are shaped by society, hurts actual people.

I don't think you want to go down this route, though. Are short men hurt by the fact that women are typically less attracted to them? If so, what remedy would you propose?