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by beachstartup 4299 days ago
> That is an insane generalization going on.

yes, it can be shocking to be presented with plainly spoken, cold hard facts when you grow up in and are surrounded by a sterile bubble of non-fact-based discourse. especially in a topic as taboo as dating, sex, race, and marriage. this is called cognitive dissonance.

trust me, as an asian american male, none of the cold facts of reality were ever hidden from me behind a facade of soothing lies. when i was much younger, i couldn't get laid, and i had to face reality head-on, and seriously work on myself to get ahead of the curve during my 20s.

> In my experience, many of these metrics are not as concrete as the appear and full of pushing the data to fit a narrative etc.

in my experience the okcupid blog's conclusions fit the narrative of reality when it comes to sexual market value, race, and attraction, whereas you're espousing a more politically correct kind of conclusion that fits an artificial narrative of egalitarian bullshit that in no way, shape, or form applies to the modern sexual marketplace (online dating and the hookup scene). there are winners, and there are losers, period. if you're not getting laid, you are losing. there is no long courtship period anymore. chivalry is dead.

how is it so radical and "dangerous" to conclude that men generally prefer younger, more fertile women, or that latino men generally prefer latino women? i mean are you even being serious?

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So while its fun to play around with data, these are not real insights. The very idea that they can think some metric you've gathered via an online app can determine whether someone finds someone else attractive is goofy. But then publicly publishing that narrative, which is straight up pseudo science, is dangerous as people in the general public will use this kind of thing to say stuff like, "I read online that they did this study about Latino men and it said that they all think black women are ugly".

Grow up and take some responsibility for the world around you.

> "I read online that they did this study about Latino men and it said that they all think black women are ugly"

what you're doing is called "projection" - you're taking your own thoughts, and assuming others have the same ones.

ironically, i bet you're a white guy - because all of the black, latino, asian guys i know talk about this stuff openly. in general, my white friends find this kind of talk extremely unsettling and uncomfortable.

> people in the general public will use this kind of thing to say stuff like, "I read online that they did this study about Latino men and it said that they all think black women are ugly".

Maybe you should go back and read what I wrote one more time. I said that "people in the general public", not "I think that".

1. I know this is pseudo science so I don't read anything into it. 2. Plenty of people have no experience with data science and do not know the difference between causation and correlation.

Can you do me a favor, and stop projecting your issues with political correctness onto me? I'm sorry you've had your difficulties with it in the past, but my comments have nothing at all to do with the topics making me uncomfortable. It's because as a society as a whole, there are many people that will use this type of information to spread hate. If okCupid or anyone else is going to do it, they need to release all of their data publicly at the same time so that there can be a complete and two sided discussion with all the data available.

Lastly...

> because all of the black, latino, asian guys i know talk about this stuff openly. http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=I%20Have%20Bl...

so in other words... i'm right, you're a white guy.
No, I was just trying to point out how racist you sound. Saying things like "my white friends"? Seriously? I now just realized that you are a very stereotyping person and exactly the kind of person that makes these okCupid releases dangerous. Yikes.
Ooh. The guy has "white friends". He must be such a bad person.

/sigh

Your last link is irrelevant. Did you read the part where he said he was Asian?
I'm not sure what part of my link talked about being white.