[shawn-butler]

This is extremely poor advice whether meant to be unkind or not.

Alcoholism is not amusing.

Also you are projecting your inner thought onto others just as the original poster is projecting his feelings onto those of his peers in order to find self-justification.

Obstacles over which you you think you have no control is usually an emotional response. Separate from your emotions. When I am feeling negative emotions, I try to see them as a separate event, not a part of you, and I watch them.

This removes their power as commandments one must follow or believe in, but rather they are just passing objects, like a leaf floating past you in the wind. The leaf doesn’t control you, and neither do negative emotions.

Viewed existentially most "obstacles or powers" affecting us beyond our reach are not really so. And those that are, just are. Better to accept them.