[AlexeyMK]

To answer specifically for Hacker Paradise, "who gets to enforce the code of conduct" is something we have been discussing internally. Casey and I are very much hoping to be part of the group, and as such we are in a somewhat biased position when it comes to addressing any issues that arise. One idea we've been playing with is having a remote neutral, third-party ombudsman that anybody can email (anonymously, if they prefer) to address any issues. The ombudsman would then ostensibly do some investigation and bring the issue up with us if it feels appropriate.

We're still thinking through this - one month to go until the retreat begins - and would love to get HN's input. Has anybody tried anything similar? As an organizer for a ~15-person group and a white dude, I realize and acknowledge that some inherent bias exists. We want to address it as effectively as possible.

[cantastoria]

Thank you for taking the time to address my concern.

I'm glad we both think it's an important issue in spite of what some other commenters have said.

[Mz]

A couple of thoughts:

A) Codes of conduct are best enforced by example. So be very, very mindful of your own behavior and that will do a lot to deter problems.

B) When I worked at a Fortune 500 company, harassment got reported to HR. HR interviewed people separately. So that might be sort of a vote for a neutral third party to turn to.

(I got interviewed after I emailed a male on my team and copied our boss and told him in no uncertain terms "don't you ever speak to me that way again in a meeting." I was never told the outcome but my suspicion is that he was probably sent to sensitivity training. So, presumably, they decided in my favor. He avoided me and was angry for a time. I spent some months winning his trust again. I eventually smoothed things over. But, no, he never spoke inappropriately to me again.)

Best of luck.

[AlexeyMK]

Thank you! Any ideas for whom a reputable, neutral third party might be, that would be interested in an experiment like ours?

[Mz]

Sorry, I have no idea. It isn't anything I have experience with.

Best of luck.