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by noir_lord 4339 days ago
> did your spouse cheating on you have anything to do with you working that much for the last 4 years?

Probably, I worked so hard to build a future for us both that I ended up neglecting her far too much, I think if you don't get the emotional support you deserve off your other half sometimes you'll be tempted to look for it elsewhere, I can forgive her for that but I don't want to be in a relationship with someone who cheats, she could have at any point told me that's how she was feeling and I would have listened, mistakes both sides.

> How did the relationship even last that long?

We loved each other and I was working for our future plus despite the hours I tried to make time for her.

> I'm wondering how other people's relationships look from the inside.

I'm wondering that as well, the reality is that when you work 9am - 7pm 7 days a week there is not much time or energy to do anything else.

I've learnt my lesson but it came at a high price however the price would be wasted if I didn't learn.