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by argaba 4333 days ago
I started going to the gym to get fit. Turns out there are people there with similar interests. So you end up making friends. They invite you out, or you invite them etc.

Friends and family are important. My point is, its never too late to make friends. Find a hobby which involves other people. You will naturally make friends, and stop drinking and eating by your self.

you'll be happier as a result and stop looking for things to fill your time with. You might even end up laughing and having fun.
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sejje 4333 days ago
I sympathize with OP a little when he says "it's hard to meet people." I used to be very much that way. Bartending for a couple of years helped me get over it.

That said, I've been going to the gym for quite a while, and I have not found it to be a social event whatsoever. I've had about two conversations, both brief and about weightlifting, in my dozens of visits.

Doing stuff you like will generally help you make friends, but the gym doesn't seem to work that way, for me at least.

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argaba 4333 days ago
as an example, I met one of my good friends there. It started with smiling and nodding, and one day I asked him about an exercise I didn't do and asked why he does it. Asked him to watch my form while I did it.

From there it was just getting his name, and whenever i saw him at the gym he and I made small talk (I made an effort to do this). Asking about how someones day to how their weekend goes a long way (it's very normal for people to do this in general).

I also sympathise with the OP, as I had problems forging relationships. But I just kept at speaking with people, and showed general interest in the things they do and soon enough they start asking about me.

When they start asking things like: got much planned for the weekend etc, it will usually lead to "want to come out with us". I am not sure about your environment at the gym, but we have a very friendly group of people.

It doesn't have to be gym, it could be anything from pottery classes, to painting or in my example the gym. Just have to get out there, and do things with people :)

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