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by shanemhansen 4344 days ago
Since we're passing around flawed statistics, I'd like to share some anecdotes:

1. Just 2 months ago, my little sister was riding on a bike with no helmet. She was struck by a car. She flew off the bike, puncturing a lung, breaking a clavicle, several bones in her face, ribs, road rash, etc. She stopped breathing at the scene. After 1 week on the ventilator, she began breathing on her own. We knew there would likely be brain damage. She woke up confused and showing most of the signs of traumatic brain injury. Fortunately just a couple months later she's done with physical therapy. Due to nerve damage she will always have a little trouble walking, but most people won't notice it. Her face didn't need surgery since the fractures healed within millimeters of their original positions. The brain is the last thing to heal, and she is a different person than she used to be, most people who didn't know her before won't notice. She can't yet hold a job or go to college. If she had been wearing a helmet it's almost certain that she "only" would have to deal with the punctured lung and a few broken bones. Her not wearing a helment not only derailed her life, but it caused major problems in the lives of everyone around her. She has 250k in medical bills and the legal minumum on liability insurance here is 25k.

2. I snowboard regularly, I've seen people without helmets die on the groomed trails. I've hit my head a few times on logs that I really wouldn't want to be running into w/o a helmet. I've never seen someone who was wearing a helmet permanently disabled by an accident.

I used to think that if you didn't want to wear a helmet it was nobody's business but your own. But when one of those cars hits you, somebody's going to pay for those hundreds of thousands in medical bills, so if you don't wear a helmet please file a DNR ahead of time.

On a "lighter" note, I tend to agree that as a society we should focus on the most dangerous things first. Right now I have a feeling that's the intersection of driving and cell phones. We can probably save the most lives by focusing on driving safety.

2 comments

> Just 2 months ago ... she can't hold a job or go to college

Oh god. How severe was it? A traumatic brain injury is something I wouldn't wish upon my worst enemy (and I know how frustrating it is. I went through a severe TBI myself).

And keep in mind that the healing is just beginning. Hell, at two months I was barely out of the hospital and the recovery took a full two years. I would guess she's not healing and has a ways to go; those effects are likely not permanent.

> Due to nerve damage she will always have a little trouble walking, but most people won't notice it.

The physical ailments are the visible ailments, but there's many more invisible ailments (at least in my case). How you think almost defines who you are and if that gets messed up, it's almost impossible to see and much more of a loss. In my view, it seems almost pointless to mention the lasting physical ailments: they're just small things you live with. They don't change who you fundamentally are.

Her injuries are very similar to what you describe experiencing. Thank goodness she's 18 and healing fast. A lot of the visible damage was healed after a couple months. However despite graduating early from high school the doctors don't want her to start college yet.

I think in 2 years she will be fine. She will probably be a different person unfortunately. But it could be much worse.

Then I really pity her; what I went through was incredibly frustrating. As cheesy as it sounds, my heart goes out to her.

> the doctors don't want her to start college yet.

That's completely normal in cases like this. My doctors didn't think I'd return to college for a year (and I was hardly ready at 6 months). I'm back now and at full throttle again (and going on 2.5 years). I was linear, concrete, black and white and and bad at planning for 6-9 months, and wasn't fully healed for (at least) 2 years.

> She will probably be a different person unfortunately.

A lesson I've learned is that there's nothing wrong with an injury like this changing your personality. Whether it be with fundamental personality changes or lingering deficits, it's just something you live with. How you choose to deal with them is defines who you are, not their mere presence. To this day, I'm bad at planning. To get around this, I manage it like any sane person would and nitpick every detail and put myself in the other person's shoes.

>Her not wearing a helment not only derailed her life, but it caused major problems in the lives of everyone around her.

Blame the victim? How about the driver, was it not his/her fault rather than your sisters?

Because blaming the driver won't change the fact that it's her life that is fucked up.

When it comes to collisions between vehicles and pedestrians or bikers, the vehicle has the right of weight.

Accidents happen.