[smutton]

I usually look at where I am and be grateful, regardless of a great disappointment. The optimized approach here is the find what will change your mindset the most and since working may motivate you for a bit, it won't really change your mindset.

A break is good and probably optimable since alcohol and friends will change the scene and definitely change your mindset (as long as you don't bring it up).

Regardless, we always fear of being back where we started - disappointment. Sometimes it's like a date with someone promising that went wrong. There's tons of things you could have done, but she or he didn't want to go on - it doesn't make it your fault, nor the other person's. Sometimes it's just not meant to be, perhaps for the better.