[thumbtackthief]

I don't think 'oops sorry' is demanded. You're allowed to disagree. That's there so people don't think that being corrected means that they're terrible racist sexist homophobes that don't belong in society, it just means that they made a human error and can apologize and move on. If you really don't feel you did anything wrong, that's fine. That being said, I don't know how many times people have told me (not at Hacker School) that it was fine that they said, "That's gay" about something because they 'didn't mean it that way.' Yeah, well, you don't get to tell me what offends me, especially if you're a person that's not a member of the group at hand. I tend to think women, for example, have a better idea of what a sexist remark is than I do and, if not, at least bring a perspective to the table that's different than mine and worth listening to.