[JohnBooty]

I wish I could trade in my karma and upvote this a few hundred times.

Genuinely caring about others, and demonstrating it by doing things like asking people about themselves, are powerful and are central to every human relationship.

In a good conversation, the amount of things you say about yourself should roughly equal the number of things they say about themselves. (Obviously, some things you talk about might be about neither of you - like if you're discussing a book)

You don't even have to ask particularly insightful questions. You can always ask open-ended questions like, "How do you feel about that?" in response to something they tell you.