[dragonwriter]

> Divorce rates are over 50%

This is extremely misleading, though, because the first marriages are much less likely to end in divorce, and subsequent marriages are more likely to end in divorce (with increasing probability for each subsequent marriage).

> women get custody of children 90% of the time.

Women get custody of children far less often when men seek custody. Women get custody more often because women want custody more often.

[arzugula]

What a sexist load of garbage. Women /want/ custody and men don't give a shit about their children, right?

The statistic touting men's success rate in seeking custody ignores the price of entry. Men /want/ to be in their children's lives, but must be wealthy to fund a custody battle (while also paying child support and alimony if he was married) in order to do so.

Women are the automatic receivers of custody, it is then the father's "privilege" to hire a family practice lawyer and sue for custody to the tune of thousands of dollars and invasion of his privacy via drug and psychological testing.

[dragonwriter]

> Women are the automatic receivers of custody

No, they aren't. They need to actively choose to seek it just as much as men do, they are just more likely to choose to do so.

[arzugula]

You should educate yourself about how the Tender Years Doctrine works as well as how custody is awarded to unwed parents if you think custody is not automatically awarded to the mother.

[dragonwriter]

> You should educate yourself about how the Tender Years Doctrine works as well as how custody is awarded to unwed parents if you think custody is not automatically awarded to the mother.

You should educate yourself about the fact that the tender years doctrine has both been legislatively replaced in most states starting in the 1970s and also struck down by various courts as a violation of the Equal Protection Clause of the federal Constitution and similar provisions of various state Constitution if you think it is relevant now, rather than historically, to policy on child custody.

Unwed parents are a somewhat different case (because the legal presumption of paternity, and the implicit assumption of stable cohabitation, doesn't exist outside of marriage.) Yes, in the case of unmarried parents, the mother has automatic custody, and the father must both establish paternity and make an active claim for custody.

[arzugula]

Do you earnestly believe that 9/10 fathers don't want custody of their children?

Do you also earnestly believe that the custody process is affordable and accessible to poor and middle-class men?